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He worked all day driving. Exhausted, he knew he needed a relaxing massage. He told his wife he would be home late from work. He saw my ad on FuckBookHookups or Doublelist, I can’t remember which, and he thought hooking up with me for a massage was exactly what he needed—a relaxing, sensual, erotic time with another man. He had been with a few men over the years beginning when he was a kid. He is divorced and had been seeking a LTR. 

He told me he had seen my profile many times and decided to finally connect. I responded saying I would make him feel totally relaxed. That sounds good, he said. I said my place is very safe, private, clean and chill. 

He came inside and immediately I felt his nerves. I saw it on his face. I’m calm.He needed to use the restroom and I showed him where. After driving all day he really needed to go. I showed him around he commented on how comfortable he felt. He was very good looking and we both saw attraction immediately. 

We sat down and started talking, he said he had been curious about me and he was ready to experience the touch of a another man. His curiosity was overpowering. He said he was willing to allow himself the pleasure of feeling aroused by another man. 

I’m all about encouraging you to be willing and open to explore. We had a really great conversations about a number of things, and that’s when he asked , “Does this make me gay ?”

I said that’s a great question. No. This does not make you gay. Men have been nurtured by other men for millennia. It’s the heavy hand of organized religion that made this ugly and wrong. It is neither. It is healthy for men to nurture each other. Men touching men can be very erotic and nurturing. Touch is powerful, it simply feels good. I really think all men should experience sensual touch from another man. Most of us were deprived of basic touch from our own fathers growing up.

So, again, does this make you bisexual ? Gay ? Only if you’re open and accepting of another man to love as a partner in life. If you’re open to building a relationship with a man that starts with trust, love, loyalty and friendship, if your aroused by him, if you like his mind, if you find yourself interested in exploring more with him like love and companionship then yes, you are bisexual. But if you’re only interested in men for sex, then NO, you just like men for sex—PERIOD. 

There are a lot men who only enjoy sex with a man but can only see themselves married to a woman. Why ? I don’t know, it’s the million dollar question. My guess is fear of those closest to them judging them and seeing them differently. It takes courage and truth to be open and accepting to be a bisexual man or a gay man.

These days, so often I wonder why guys have such a hard time accepting a compliment. 

Generally speaking, and yes I said generally, guys just don’t accept compliments well. Maybe they accept it more if it comes from a woman, or maybe it’s that their confidence feels better if it comes from a woman. Either way I think if anyone, boy, girl, man or woman gives you a compliment—yeah bitch—accept it with good manners and say thank you. It’s when the exchange becomes creepy, that’s the real problem. 

When I was in my teens I was hit on by every older creep you can imagine. A compliment from them was just a ploy to fuck me. But today, I like compliments because I’m stronger and more confident to be able to accept them. I think to accept compliments from anyone you must have a certain level of confidence in yourself. It’s easy to learn. I mean, no one is teasing you or insinuating anything, they are giving you a compliment. Sure you’ll feel awkward at times but over time, be happy someone is complimenting you and feel good about it, that is what a compliment does for you, makes you feel good. And foremost, good manners will have you replying, “Thank you for the compliment,” no matter who gives it to you. So to be disrespectful to someone who has complimented you, regardless of who it is, is just plain rude. You should check yourself. Now I’m not suggesting all compliments are the same but one that is nice and respectful—what is the problem ? It’s a nice a nice gesture. 

No one owes anyone anything for a simple compliment. Sometimes people use compliments as a way to come onto you, however awkward at first, just say thanks and go on with your bad self. Simple. Just be respectful and thankful someone other than your mother notices you.